Lip Service

How many of us think that we are honest people? I would think that most of us believe that we are honest people. The truth is, we all lie. I'm not saying that we are not trustworthy, but we all lie. There is a difference between being untrustworthy and lying. Sometimes we lie to keep from hurting those that we care about. This blog isn't going to go into depth about lying, but into, what I believe to be the two worse kind of lying.

First, let's address the times that we lie to other for the sake of being accepted. Maybe we inflate the amount of money we make, the places we have been, or maybe our job title. We change the story to make ourselves out to be better than we really are, in the hopes that others will accept us. This is a very dangerous habit that we can create. The problem is, we end up attracting the wrong kind of people. We end up attracting people who accept us for the wrong reasons. Once we are accepted, we feel the need to keep up the charade or risk being rejected. No one likes the feeling associated with rejection.

Secondly, are the lies that we tell ourselves. We tell ourselves that we are "over" a hurt from our past, that we are "okay" with our body image, or that we are "happy" in our relationship with a significant other. We lie to ourselves all the time to protect ourselves from ourselves. We are afraid of the rejection that we can inflict on ourselves. So, we lie to make ourselves feel better and inflate ourselves and end up settling for our current circumstances instead of something better.

One of the hardest things that I had to learn to do it to be honest with myself. I had lived a life so full of lies, that I had to take a lot of time to wade through all the lies that I had told myself. I had to "get real" and be honest with myself and take a close hard look at my life. What did it really look like and what was a lie. At times, it was a difficult process, but well worth it in the end. I have since been able to improve my relationship with others and more importantly myself. There is a release to freedom when we become honest with ourselves. It's like the shackles have been taken off our wrists and ankles. When we are able to release ourselves from the bondage of lies, we are able to add other things to our lives. Things like, happiness, love, peace, and so much more.

This can be a difficult process. It will force you to deal with somethings that you have hidden from yourself and others. You will probably have to change some of the "friends' in your circle. Some may not like who you really are and for awhile you may not like you. But be patient with the process. The rewards are far greater than the pain that you may temporarily feel. On the other side of the lies is a greater love for yourself and real relationships. After all, aren't we all seeking authentic relationships? The relationships that we have with others and ourselves? You deserve authentic relationships. Don't settle for less.

Adapt, Improvise, And Overcome to become your very best.